Well love can be considered abstract, easier to experience than explain.

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feeling and reasoning are 2 different things. love is to be felt not thought of or explained ;).

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too bad it's not abstract for me anymore..

and it truely is sad but true, love appears to be magical only to those who don't know or never tried to search for reasons why they fall in love.

once a person finds why he/she loves this and that, this one or that one... there's no magic anymore.. no secret, everythings is clear and is nothing but combination of what we have/want/how.much.are.we.willing.to.change/and some other stuff.

which on the other hand is good, in a way.... at least you will never let love fool ur heart and blind your eyes,..so you'll never feel the pain, for you won't fall down from the skies again.

heh, at least i hope i won't again....

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well putting love in mathematical terms brings only misery... and i doubt you know what love is or what it takes to fall for a person.
U think u got it.. go ahead.. I'm listening ;). what 's love?

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It can be put into mathematical terms, indeed.. And still it doesn't mean it brings only misery...
You can think in terms, and still give into love and live it fully... by emotions, by heart

In fact, I believe it helps you more than it hampers.

Furthemore, when you fall in love, without knowing "these mathematical terms", you stop being reasonable, and start acting foolish..you don't hold back, but instead you rush too fast with your nose stick to the trunk, so you can't see the whole tree... and you're doomed to burn faster than a piece of paper, sooner or later. Then you open your blinded eyes and see the whole picture, but it might be too late, eh?

What is love?... as I said.. I identify myself with what is written in the text.. (paragraph no.2 & 4) as far as for this question. that's love for me (';

And what it takes to fall for a person?? Same things it takes to fall for a song, thing, activity, whatever else.

Have I told you already that anyone can fall in love with ANYONE?..in theory, of course.. I could fall in love with you as well as you could fall in love with me lol....(just an example)

as I said... it's all just a combination of what we have..are looking for and some other aspects...

lets say a Person A.. with characteristic (X,Y,Z) is looking for someone with (A,X,K)... and oh.. here comes a Person B.. who's char. are (A,X,K) and is looking for someone with (X,Y,Z) ... perfect match... but it's not this easy... you don't meet your perfect match every day...maybe you meet him/her once,..and maybe you'll miss your chance..maybe you meet them,.. never.. and sooo, you have to compromise a bit and/or sometimes a lot...

so the Person A with (X,Y,Z) looking for (A,X,K) meets the Person B with (A,X,L) or even (A,T,L)...
someone gotta compromise.. either B will change a bit him/herself or A will change a bit of his/her picture of desired man/woman.. the best if both of them do. After all, that's one of basic stones you build a relationship on "be able to compromise/be flexible"

but hey, there is much more to it than this,..depends how long they spend time together, what makes you think of the other person, and believe me ..the more you think of him/her, the more you fall in love with the person.. the less you know about him/her, the more you want to know.............. so many other aspects to take into consideration....

If you say what i want to hear,... if you act the way I want you to act,... if you show me what I want to see,... if I find you by my side at the place it'd else feel so lonely,... What else it takes to fall in love with you?? If you are all.. I dream of you to be... I will love you with all my heart...

okey? I'm not saying this is all it takes.. it's a lil piece of it all....I'm just saying LOVE is not mystery... it's all suggestible and changeable... and even arrange-able...for as people are changing, their characteristics, reasonings, dreams, ideals change along.

So when one realises this... he/she's able to "drive the wheels of love" more carefully... Because there really is MORE TO LOVE, than just feeling of butterflies in ur belly, magic spark glittering in your eye, and the feeling that lifts your feet way up high and make you fly....

sorry to make it this long (=

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I wonder how many more topics of love will come up? It is nontheless an interesting subject to discuss, but how many of these have been done in the last, whenever? Just a random musing thats all.

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Heheh let mew explain what I meant through that. For example you have a flower in front of you, lets say the stereotipical rose. it smells divine, its dark red, it's pleasant to the eye, the petals are smooth the pins are sharp. You get mathematical with it.. you start to dissect it, to understand it, it has cells, nucleus, it has clorofil.. you understand its rhythm, you go deeper and deeper.. all u see now in front of your eyes are a much of cells.. running day and night that little pre-set machinery which runs with pin point accuracy. You are so preoccupied to understand it, you lose the bigger picture. You don't enjoy the perfume anymore or the nice aspect of it.. you see only cells and processes.

I hope you understand what I wanted to say.

Plus you don't have to lose your head in love. you still have to be conscious about the decision you take but love is NOT rational. You sometimes end up loving in love for the weirdest and strangest reasons.

"someone gotta compromise.. either B will change a bit him/herself or A will change a bit of his/her picture of desired man/woman

That's a very frequent mistake in 'love' and that's not even love. Love is about accepting the person beside you the way it is. with goods and bads. A forced compromise will lead in the end to bottled up frustrations. What is worse but asking a person to change, and stop being themselves. It will hold for a while but in the end they will start feeling down, depressed, nervous, anxious just because you forced them (blackmailed them) to change that part of them which you didn't like.
There is no such thing as perfection even though ppl seem to be racing for it nowadays.

Having the power to accept them as they are is indeed true love.

"as people are changing, their characteristics, reasoning's, dreams, ideals change along."
Changing is natural.. ppl constantly change, everyday something gets changed. You are asked to change a little bit in order to adapt you life but the way you change it's up to you, not your lover or anyone else. It's a natural change not a forced one.

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If you look at the rose it may get you pleasant feeling, but you won't be happy looking at it forever.. one day the excitement "wears off"..
and what then?.. you gotta advance and enjoy other things about the rose.. even the process and cells and all that stuff can be enjoyed.

Not losing head, that's what i was pointing to... and by knowing why and how you fall for someone.. it's just easier not to lose it.. the reasons you love someone are in your head.. and only there => only you can change them, and that means you can start loving anyone for anything. It's up to you.

By changing I didn't mean the change is forced.
I meant it's a free will to change... if I see someone who likes e.g. cooking..and I know my cooking skillz are poor, I will try to change myself and learn how to cook, in order to please the other person, and maybe impress her... But if the Person I love would like me to, let say, go shopping and I didn't like that, then I wouldn't accept the change to do that. (Tho I like shopping..this was just an example. ;>)
One should change only in a good and improving way... not the other way

When I said that someone's gotta compromise.. I meant.. you may meet your perfect match or may not,... but if you finds someone close to it.. you will prolly change your "ideal" your looking for a bit.. just because you realise that sometimes you're looking for something that's like almost impossible..

Heh, don't even know why i think like this... I hate it to say that it's almost impossible to meet the perfect match... and all this..compromising,..it's sick, just sick, but I see it all around..feels hopeless sometimes ): .. I want and dream of someone perfectly matching my dreams, and I honestly,truly, and maybe foolishly believe it.. I believe, that there exists someone like me.. if I exist..there has to be my perfect match... and maybe as much as I want to be her proud boy,.. she wants to be my proud girl. iWish ;>

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well u cant be forever in love i mean not the way u were when it was first happening. the feeling evolves, changes naturally.

Losing your head is a natural stage in love. as anything it has stages from being 'blind' to seeing clearly

about cooking.. that comes natural that not a real change... coz it would have happened anyway if u lived alone. U had to learn to cook yourself in order not to starve. plus that's not an attitudinal change that's change of skills.

I was talking more onto.. u like to dress flashy (girl) but he is jealous he gets the idea all guys look at u.. so he asks u to dress sober. That's a change. You like soccer but she hates it.. u have to watch it.. with ur friends or when she is not around.

that's why it's called ideal man/ woman coz it's impossible to get.

it is impossible to meet the perfect match, because you were looking for something which doesn't exists. Can u say about yourself that u are perfect in order to ask for perfection? u need to find some1 who you simply cant live without. Som1 with goods and bads

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Sure, you can't be in love forever. And losing your head...that's it... people often accept to blindly give everything and demand nothing in return... then no wonder why many relationships end up in trash...

Cooking,..well...no. You don't have to learn to cook, you can still earn enough money, which you will earn if you wanna buy something to eat...but instead of cooking you can just go to restaurant, fast food, etc. Even tho it's a change of skill not attitude, it's a change, and can be appriciated.. after all it's the person because we're changing of, who is to appreciate it.

Ye, I know...such relationships are crap lol. Instead of being happy and proud that you got a nice girl/boy who knows how to dress, looks good, catches attention of others..you get jealous and it only makes it worseeeee...lol... and that's nothing but a little piece of puzzle... and she hates soccer??? what kind of complex is that? :D

.. like what's good bothering even to Hate anything?

mh a perfect match.. it exists in your head, and so it may exist in this world... plus in this case.. "perfection" itself... is really as much different as much we differs.. Your perfect match might be unperfect for anyone else... and soooo on. (=

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